This is so accurate. Thank you! As a pastor I recently left a church that had, in my opinion, a very unhealthy culture and leadership board.
Honestly it wasn’t until after I left and had several months to process things with my wife that I came to understand just how deeply that experience had affected her .. and how much it had impacted me. Those many conversations that I shared with my wife postmortem were critical to both her and my healing.
Interestingly enough, it was earlier this week that Father God reignited a fire in me that He had burdened me with about 3-4 years ago...
I do realize that the word "spouse" can be either gender. However, I would like to speak from a woman's perspective, to other women, whether married, single, widowed, divorced, or married to someone not walking in communion with their Savior.
Throughout scripture and throughout history, whenever you meet a strong man, he will always have a strong woman behind him. Whether that be Mother, Grandmother, Aunt, Sister, Daughter, Cousin, neighbor, friend.......
I was reminded of:
Ecclesiastes 4:12 NIV
[12] Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
Women, we need to stand together, pray for each other, encourage one another, for TOGETHER, we grow stronger. And when we are strong, our families are strong, our churches are strong, our communities are strong, our cities, our states, our nation... and, ultimately, we, together, can change the world for Jesus!!
Praying for every woman out there! Especially those who are in ministry and those whose husband's, fathers, uncles, brothers, nephews, .... any and every man that Father God has placed in your life who's in ministry.... I pray that you will be encouraged, strengthened, and that you will not feel alone, but in that strand of three.... you are surrounded by other women! Women who love you and are INTERCEDING for you, stand tall, stand strong...
Wow! A most Critically key revelation in the releader process!!! Most critical of all elements as I see. Our spouses can take an offense and suffer a more impactful wound and trauma than the leader! The ultimate insight brother!
I would agree. I was injured at work as a police officer after 20+ years of service and ultimately let go from that department, without any concern or acknowledgment of responsibility. It took me awhile and a lot of praying to truly forgive those specifically involved. To this day, my wife often expresses anger toward the unfairness of the circumstances as if she was there, But since we are one, she was. During a career change and re-leading other teams and private security accounts since, the emotions are often more visible with her. As you said Dr. Chasteen, I've been busy rebuilding, re-leading problems I didn't create. And yes, my wife's emotional state, along with physical and spiritual, directly effects my job performance during those days when we are in a spiritual valley.
It's so true Robert. Thanks for sharing that. Our spouses love us and carry our pain. I will be praying for her. Again, thanks for sharing your thoughts to the rest of the ReLeader community.
This is so accurate. Thank you! As a pastor I recently left a church that had, in my opinion, a very unhealthy culture and leadership board.
Honestly it wasn’t until after I left and had several months to process things with my wife that I came to understand just how deeply that experience had affected her .. and how much it had impacted me. Those many conversations that I shared with my wife postmortem were critical to both her and my healing.
Thank you for posting this Jim. And thank to for reading! Your testimony can be both a confirmation, and a testimony for others.
Interestingly enough, it was earlier this week that Father God reignited a fire in me that He had burdened me with about 3-4 years ago...
I do realize that the word "spouse" can be either gender. However, I would like to speak from a woman's perspective, to other women, whether married, single, widowed, divorced, or married to someone not walking in communion with their Savior.
Throughout scripture and throughout history, whenever you meet a strong man, he will always have a strong woman behind him. Whether that be Mother, Grandmother, Aunt, Sister, Daughter, Cousin, neighbor, friend.......
I was reminded of:
Ecclesiastes 4:12 NIV
[12] Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
https://ecclesiastes.bible/ecclesiastes-4-12
Women, we need to stand together, pray for each other, encourage one another, for TOGETHER, we grow stronger. And when we are strong, our families are strong, our churches are strong, our communities are strong, our cities, our states, our nation... and, ultimately, we, together, can change the world for Jesus!!
Praying for every woman out there! Especially those who are in ministry and those whose husband's, fathers, uncles, brothers, nephews, .... any and every man that Father God has placed in your life who's in ministry.... I pray that you will be encouraged, strengthened, and that you will not feel alone, but in that strand of three.... you are surrounded by other women! Women who love you and are INTERCEDING for you, stand tall, stand strong...
We got this girlfriends!!!
Love you all!
Amen to the strong women behind a strong man!
Wow! A most Critically key revelation in the releader process!!! Most critical of all elements as I see. Our spouses can take an offense and suffer a more impactful wound and trauma than the leader! The ultimate insight brother!
Exactly!
I would agree. I was injured at work as a police officer after 20+ years of service and ultimately let go from that department, without any concern or acknowledgment of responsibility. It took me awhile and a lot of praying to truly forgive those specifically involved. To this day, my wife often expresses anger toward the unfairness of the circumstances as if she was there, But since we are one, she was. During a career change and re-leading other teams and private security accounts since, the emotions are often more visible with her. As you said Dr. Chasteen, I've been busy rebuilding, re-leading problems I didn't create. And yes, my wife's emotional state, along with physical and spiritual, directly effects my job performance during those days when we are in a spiritual valley.
It's so true Robert. Thanks for sharing that. Our spouses love us and carry our pain. I will be praying for her. Again, thanks for sharing your thoughts to the rest of the ReLeader community.